i consider myself to be a very positive person. even during the darkest of times, i have looked at the positive with great optimism and tried to hold onto that a positive language and energy tightly.
|[ how can anyone with a face like this be a downer? ]|
my eldest son on the other hand, is kind of the opposite. i know this will be surprising to many, but he’s kind of a debbie downer, a negative force that is tough to live with. whatever i say, the first word out of his mouth is “no”. no matter what.
here are some examples:
me: “we’re going to your friends house tomorrow to play”
bear: “no, i don’t want to”
me: “ok, let’s get our christmas pajama’s on and go see the lights in the park”
bear: “no. i hate christmas and christmas lights are stupid”
me: “time to tidy up boys”
bear: ” no way, daba-day”
he’s been talking in this negative way for a long time, so i’m starting to think that he’s really this party pooper kinda guy. sometimes his negative vibe is stronger than at other times; it’s like he cycles through his deep dark moods.
and, i get it, the kid is almost five so agreeing with me is not a top priority for him, but there’s gotta be something i can suggest that doesn’t evoke a such a quick and sharp NO from him.
but, what is that?